You’re thinking about how to tell your husband you want a divorce when he doesn’t. Chances are, you’ve been through this before and you know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of a divorce. But now you’re in a different place and you don’t really know what to do. It’s not that you don’t love your husband anymore, although that probably isn’t the reason that he’s decided to walk out of this marriage.
What is the reason that you aren’t being able to come up with good answers for how to tell your husband you want a divorce when he doesn’t? For starters, you obviously haven’t been looking at his motives (which is very likely because you don’t know what your own motives are). If your husband walked out of the marriage because you didn’t understand him and you couldn’t stand being with him, then you need to know why – maybe you were less loving than he was, or you were more jealous than he was. This is the first step in figuring out how to tell your husband you want a divorce when he doesn’t.
Now you need to start looking at yourself. Have you changed at all? Have you become a totally different person? This can help you figure out what it is that is different about you that made him not want to commit to the marriage in the first place. It may also be something physical or emotional.
If it’s a physical thing, you need to take a look at your body. Are you sicker than you were before? Do you have a more obvious illness now than you did before? If so, are you taking care of that right now? If you have an obvious physical illness but you still want to try to get your husband to reconsider the marriage, you need to make sure that there’s nothing else wrong with you that would make him want to leave the marriage.
Emotional problems on the other hand will be harder to work out. If it’s because you two aren’t getting along very well emotionally then you will probably need to sit down and try to find out why that is. This could be a result of things like a death of a love one or your husband’s own personal problems.
If you need some extra help with how to tell your husband you want a divorce when he does, your local marriage counselor can be of help. But be prepared for them to want to talk about the things you two are struggling with. It’s a good idea to bring any important documents with you that you think might be useful. If not, just keep reading. You’ll figure out what to do from there.